I turned 30 last week and wanted to reflect on reaching the milestone. When you’re younger, the milestones come more frequently with 16, 18 and 21 all in quick succession. 25 is another reflection point and then the milestones are generally celebrated at 30, 40, 50, 60 etc.
Like everyone else, I probably had an idea in my head of where I would be in my life by this point however in the last few years I’ve shifted my mindset in this area and no longer associate age with achievements or success. Achievements come throughout our lives, at all different stages and they are not defined by age. Scoring a new job or reaching a personal goal is a reason to celebrate or be proud regardless of the age it was achieved.
My 20’s have been amazing, I’ve experienced so much and travelled far and wide. I moved to Dubai at 21 having never stepped foot in the City before. It was my first taste of real independence and there’s no better way to learn than to be thrown in at the deep end. Setting up a life in a different country is challenging at the best of times but when you’re on your own it’s even more daunting. You’ve got to familiarise yourself with the way of life, adapt to the rules which are completely different to what you’ve known your entire life, take on a new job and make friends. It’s the best life experience and while I didn’t stay too long, I learned more in that time than I could have ever imagined.
I travelled across 5 continents and having been to North America previously, Antartica is the only one I haven’t yet reached. I discovered my home away from home and absolute adoration for Paris. I’ve made a point of returning at least once a year, sometimes more to get my fix. 2020 is the first time in 7 years I haven’t made it which is sad but they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and as soon as things are better, I’ll be back.
I became an Auntie at 26 which is hands down the best experience of my life so far. I didn’t know how much I could love two tiny little miracles and I’m eternally grateful for how involved I’ve been in their upbringing. They’ve grown into two splendid individuals, bringing joy and light into our lives each and every day. They lift us up during the dark times and constantly humble us with their wisdom and sass. Being an Auntie is the best role and I look forward to being right by their side as they continue to grow and develop.
I’ve got a wonderful family who support me day in, day out and in whatever I’m doing. My mum and dad have taught me what’s important in life and I don’t take time for granted. I’m fortunate enough to have had 28 years with my dear Gran. We had a really strong bond and losing her last year was extremely difficult. The Disney Christmas Advert this year really struck a cord and I related to it 100%. I’m sad she wasn’t around for my 3oth as she loved to celebrate however I’m relived she hasn’t had to live through this horrendous year. She’s with me everyday in my heart and we relive the fond memories regularly.
Watching turtles hatch in Cape Verde and make their way into the sea is one of the most incredible things I’ve experienced in the last 10 years. Swimming with them at Akumal Bay in Mexico was another highlight and almost brought me full circle, from watching them embark on their journey to meeting them much later in life having survived against all the odds. It’s one of those moments that takes your breath away and reminds you how precious life is.
I made a small but strong circle of friends in my 20’s, girls who I know have my back 100%. We have been through a lot but support each other through the good but more importantly, the bad. It’s easy to find ‘friends’ when you’re doing well however it’s the ones who show up during the tough times, who know your cues or pick up when you’re not quite yourself, that’s when you discover the true friendships. Quality over quantity is my motto and I don’t know how I would’ve got through the last few years if it wasn’t for my beehive.
On that note, I’ve had the pleasure of being front row at many Beyoncé concerts and had the honour and privilege of holding her hand a couple of times. I can’t really express how that feels apart from to say it’s extremely overwhelming. Her skin is as soft as silk and when she makes eye contact, she really connects with you. I can only hope to have more of those exhilarating experiences in my 30’s.
On top of all of the above, I’ve also been fortunate enough to collaborate with some of my favourite brands through this little blog. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I considered giving it up but each time I was at that point, I’d turn a corner or land a collaboration which gave me a much needed boost. It’s still very much a hobby but I enjoy developing my skills and continuing to push myself out of my comfort zone.
Cheers to the next 30!